Life is full of more questions than answers, way too often.  We will be talking about all sorts of topics here from dreams to reality, from marriage to divorce, from living well to dying well.  This blog is not about debate, judging or preaching.  This blog is about sharing and discovering insights and options, empowering each other, encouraging and supporting all who join in.  There are plenty of places in the world and on the internet to be angry, hurt and full of rage, let this be a place of peace and joyful learning about who you are and who you want to be in your life with yourself and with those around you.

Feel free to ask your own questions or make comments on my writings.  Remember to keep your comments productive and uplifting.  If you don’t like what I say, or what someone else says, either don’t say anything or find something constructive to say and keep your negativity to yourself. :)   Ok, now let’s get to connecting and sharing our wisdom!

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Hassle Factor

Is life as full of hassle as we think it is? There are legitimate hassles that happen to us in any random day, that’s for sure.  We get a speeding ticket, a phone bill that somehow doesn’t get paid on time and they can’t even find you in the system, or the bakery is unable to get that special birthday cake made in time for that surprise birthday part you’re planning.

One thing we all seem to have in common these days is “the hassle factor”. It’s a natural tendency to want to build a rapport on things we have in common with others.  However, whateer we connect with, multiplies.  Do we really want to multiply our hassle factor?
Just a thought to think about: Wanting to connect on the negative aspects of things may also be “victim thinking”.
Life is only as much hassle as we make it by how we think about it.  I’m working on making my life light and easy and as hassle free as I know how to do it.   Some hassles I make for myself, others are actual hassles that I can make heavier or lighter for myself.  When I refuse to use the hassle factor as a way to build rapport with others, then I’m helping them and myself to lower, or at least not magnify, the hassle factor in both our lives.
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How is it possible to really help people over the phone, isn’t working face-to-face much better?

I get this question quite often.  For me, working over the phone is actually even better than working in person.  Remember, we are working primarily with energy, so time and space are much less important.  We are talking and using our imaginations to connect with each other, so what clothes you’re wearing or what color your hair is doesn’t make any difference.  If I were a massage therapist, then yes, I would need to be in your physical presence.  I don’t work with people who are seriously suicidal, over the phone, because they may need more eye contact, or just the simple awareness of someone being there for them physically.

As with so many things in life, we need to stay aware and in balance.  Most things have limitations, or work better in some situations than in others, that does not mean they are any less effective than another tool.  For example, a hammer is just perfect for driving a nail into a board, but pretty terrible at shooting a screw into a board.  So, we just know that hammers have their place and we need other tools for other tasks.

Some people actually discover that they feel more comfortable working by phone than in person, so trust issues can be worked through easier than in person.  I like working by phone better because I’m less distracted by the usual concerns of my own personal appearance as well as what the other person brings physically.  Even little things like if the office is warm enough or the lighting is too bright or the people in the next office are getting too loud, and so on.

Because my vision is low, I am more tuned into tone of voice than most, so working by phone is very easy for me. I sort of  fill in the blanks with my imagination and I think my psychic attention is even sharper than it is in person.  Sometimes the connection by phone is so strong, I can almost physically feel it.

So, think of working by phone as simply what it is, another option, another tool.  It has its strong points and its weak points.  With the internet’s coming of age, people are becoming more open to working not only by phone but by text chat and voice chat using various computer programs, such as SKYPE, Yahoo and Pal Talk  Even video is becoming mainstream now for those who like to have more visual information while talking to others.  As we here so much now: It’s all good!

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Over time I have come to understand how truly important simply being peaceful in my own life really is not only to me and those around me, but to the world as a whole.  I think most have heard of this before, yet KNOWing it deep inside is different.  I sometimes wonder if I’m doing enough in my life to make a difference.  I am confident now that I am, and so are you. Whether you are making a big splash in the media about your service to mankind or simply keeping the peace inside yourself and modeling that peace for people who cross your path, it’s all vital.

I think of it like the “Hundredth Monkey” thing.  If enough of us realize how vital simply choosing peace in our daily lives really is, one day we will reach critical mass, and peace will become second nature the us as a world population.  We will expect to resolve personal conflicts peacefully, just as naturally as many now believe we must solve our differences with violence.

Here is a link to a speech given at the UN on this topic, I think you will enjoy watching the video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9S0AObjQfas

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Question: How can a person be humble and also have a high self esteem? Isn’t having a high opinion of yourself like having pride? Isn’t pride something we are supposed to avoid if we want to be a good person?

Answer: To me, being humble is having a sense of your own self worth, knowing that you don’t need to earn it or be better than anyone else. Being humble is simply knowing your worth is based on being human, rather than being based on what you can do or what others think of you. Having a high self esteem is pretty much the same thing. Having an inner knowing that you hold yourself in high esteem. You respect yourself.

Being proud, in the more negative sense of this word, usually implies an over exaggeration of who you are. Many times when a person is acting in a way that others may interpret as egotistic, proud or arrogant, we can usually recognize this as a cover-up for that person’s deeper feelings of low self esteem. In other words, when people appear to be arrogant, we can be on the look out for deeper feelings of worthlessness.

So, should we avoid pridefulness? Based on what I’ve just written it would make sense to me to try to stay honest with myself and with those around me. That includes knowing my strengths and my challenges. Being aware of my talents as well as my weaker points.

This idea is a fundamental concept of living in integrity. Those of you who have sessions with me, have heard me say time and time again that everything we do and everything we are boils down to just one basic concept:

Be true to me.

Stay aware that all of who I am, I already am that.

All my answers are within me.

I’m allowing my Soul to emerge.

Growing and maturing is not so much about learning to be different but about allowing my God Self to show up while I’m still in human form. That’s why we are here on this Earth.

Imagine you are like a Tootsie Roll Pop. Your body is like the candy on the outside, and your Soul or God Self is like the chocolate on the inside. Doesn’t it make sense that if we are God/Goddesses in the center, like a Tootsie Roll Pop, then as we become more and more aware of this goodness within us, wouldn’t we love ourselves more and more? That means we would have less and less reason to pretend we are wonderful. Why pretend when we can actually BE wonderful.

I think the more we allow our candy shells to melt away, the more others will see our chocolate! Neither is good or bad. Bother are wonderful parts that make up the whole of who we are. Allowing our goodness to shine is not only a gift to others but to ourselves. Dare to shine your Light. Simply choose to be the best of who you are, and then choose to have the courage to know your are beautiful.

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A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly applied, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.

His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.

After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready. As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on his window. “I love it,” he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy. Mr. Jones, you haven’t seen the room; just wait.”

That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” he replied. Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged … it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it “It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up.

I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do.

Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away. Just for this time in my life. Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you’ve put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories!. Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I am still depositing.”

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Got Worms?

The minister decided that a visual demonstration would add emphasis to his Sunday sermon. Four worms were placed into four separate jars.

The first worm was put into a jar of alcohol.

The second worm was put into a jar of cigarette smoke.

The third worm was put into a jar of sperm.

The fourth worm was put into a jar of good, clean soil.

At the conclusion of the sermon, the Minister reported the following results:

The first worm in alcohol – dead.

Second worm in cigarette smoke – dead.

Third worm in sperm – dead.

Fourth worm in good, clean soil – Alive

So, the Minister asked the congregation: “What can you learn from this demonstration? A little old woman in the back quickly raised her hand and said, “As long as you drink, smoke and have sex, you won’t have worms.”

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Question: Why are we here anyway?

Answer: I’m guessing that you are asking why humans are here on Earth, as in, what is the purpose for life. That has got to be one of the most fundamental questions we can ponder while here on this planet.

I think we are here primarily to learn deeper lessons that cannot be easily learned until we have a physical body and we are living in this limited three dimensional world. To me coming to Earth is like going to the gym for a work out. If we want to build strength, and really work those muscles we have to use weights and even special machines that put stress on our bodies in just the right way to develop certain muscles.

Isn’t it interesting that each of us seem to have “villains” in our lives, sometimes we even play the villain role. Have you ever wondered how those “villains” keep being that way? Can’t they see how much they hurt others?

Kryon (www.kryon.org)  talks about how we design our upcoming life time as the “planning party” between life times. He says that before we come down for another “semester” of lessons. <smile> we gather with our closest soul friends and design a story and chose roles and cast the players to move us to our next developmental goals.

So, the souls who jump up and down waving their arms and saying “pick me, pick me! I want to be the alcoholic father!” or “Oh, I want to be the abusive mother!” These eager villain wannabe’s are our most trusted soul friends. We are trusting them with our growth opportunities. We are asking for them to be strong in their role as a “villain” so we will be pushed into remembering we are “God/dess” experiencing Earth.

These eager “bad guys” solemnly promise to keep it up, to not get all weak and go “nice” on us, no matter what. We hug them with deep love and appreciation, waving as we go our separate ways in preparation for the “play”. We already have a cast party planned for when the play is over!

What fun! We will all have learned so much. The “Villains” will be laughing and hugging us saying, “I really got you there, didn’t’t I?” We will hug them with tears of joy and love in our eyes and say, “Oh, yes, you put me into the deepest pit, and I loved it!” and before the party is over we’ll be saying, “Let’s do it again!!”

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One Month Later:

Marlana!!!

He called right after your psychic message!!! How amazing is that! He’s very intuitive huh?? We talked for like 45 minutes and it was great! I know we’re going to have our things come up, but this foundation is incredible.
I am so happy, thank you so much you’re the best!!! I’m going to order a Soul Fragment Exchange for him because he just ended a relationship that was confusing for him and he seems hurt. I’m doing that now.

Love,

Jody (Not her real name)

To learn more about psychic messages and clearing up old relationships, visit my website at www.MarlanaLyte.com

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Here’s a letter I received from a client after phone session:

Marlana,

I had a phone session with you for clearing negative karma around intimacy & relationships. I was in love with someone I worked with for months after we dated and it didn’t work out. We remained great friends though. You cleared the karma surrounding us since we’d known each other in past lives. You said if anything romantic is meant to spring from us, the past is now cleared and our relationship will be too.

He had been starting to become aloof and not return my phone calls, prior to your session with me and I was very hurt and upset for a long while. The very next day after the session, I walked into work feeling good & centered. I was flowing internally, a distinct flow that was peaceful.

Then, in the morning, while I was at my desk, he came into my room and then right up to my desk and said” Hi”. There was something different in his way of being. He apologized for not calling me. He was warm, friendly, but inviting… Very different from the slightly cold aloofness that had been troubling me the last few weeks.

I noticed I was peaceful over the next few days. Five days after the session I met someone who was really great, when I hadn’t met anyone in months. It didn’t work out, but he was the first promising person I had dated in a long time. I’m free and fulfilled in a way that I haven’t been in so long.

Now, in the present time, the man I work with (who I think is the love of my life) and I started seeing each other again. I don’t have those same fears of rejection and insecurity. I’m relaxed, myself, and I’m so happy being with him. This is a significant transformation in the way I was being in relationships.

You’re a good woman and you made a huge difference for me. Whatever happens I’m forever transformed and I know there’s love there for me. Thank you so much. I’ll be speaking with you again. I wish you only the best.

Thank you,

Jodi (not her real name)

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This is a little tidbit by Adam Khan, Author of:”Self-Help Stuff That Works”.

When Paul was a boy growing up in Utah, he happened to live near an old copper smelter, and the sulfur dioxide that poured out of the refinery had made a desolate wasteland out of what used to be a beautiful forest.

When a young visitor one day looked at this wasteland and saw that there was nothing living there — no animals, no trees, no grass, no bushes, no birds … nothing but fourteen thousand acres of black and barren land that even smelled bad — well, this kid looked at the land and said, “This place is crummy.” Little Paul knocked him down. He felt insulted. But he looked around him and something happened inside him. He made a decision: Paul Rokich vowed that some day he would bring back the life to this land.

Many years later Paul was in the area, and he went to the smelter office. He asked if they had any plans to bring the trees back. The answer was “No.” He asked if they would let him try to bring the trees back. Again, the answer was “No.” They didn’t want him on their land. He realized he needed to be more knowledgeable before anyone would listen to him, so he went to college to study botany.

At the college he met a professor who was an expert in Utah’s ecology. Unfortunately, this expert told Paul that the wasteland he wanted to bring back was beyond hope. He was told that his goal was foolish because even if he planted trees, and even if they grew, the wind would only blow the seeds forty feet per year, and that’s all you’d get because there weren’t any birds or squirrels to spread the seeds, and the seeds from those trees would need another thirty years before they started producing seeds of their own. Therefore, it would take approximately twenty thousand years to revegetate that six-square-mile piece of earth. His teachers told him it would be a waste of his life to try to do it. It just couldn’t be done.

So he tried to go on with his life. He got a job operating heavy equipment, got married, and had some kids. But his dream would not die. He kept studying up on the subject, and he kept thinking about it. And then one night he got up and took some action. He did what he could with what he had. This was an important turning point. As Samuel Johnson wrote, “It is common to overlook what is near, by keeping the eye fixed on something remote. In the same manner, present opportunities are neglected and attainable good is slighted by minds busied in extensive ranges.”

Paul stopped busying his mind in extensive ranges and looked at what opportunities for attainable good were right in front of him. Under the cover of darkness, he sneaked out into the wasteland with a backpack full of seedlings and started planting. For seven hours he planted seedlings. He did it again a week later.

And every week, he made his secret journey into the wasteland and planted trees and shrubs and grass. But most of it died. For fifteen years he did this. When a whole valley of his fir seedlings burned to the ground because of a careless sheepherder, Paul broke down and wept. Then he got up and kept planting.

Freezing winds and blistering heat, landslides and floods and fires destroyed his work time and time again. But he kept planting. One night he found a highway crew had come and taken tons of dirt for a road grade, and all the plants he had painstakingly planted in that area were gone. But he just kept planting.

Week after week, year after year he kept at it, against the opinion of the authorities, against the trespassing laws, against the devastation of road crews, against the wind and rain and heat … even against plain common sense. He just kept planting. Slowly, very slowly, things began to take root. Then gophers appeared. Then rabbits. Then porcupines.

The old copper smelter eventually gave him permission, and later, as times were changing and there was political pressure to clean up the environment, the company actually hired Paul to do what he was already doing, and they provided him with machinery and crews to work with. Progress accelerated. Now the place is fourteen thousand acres of trees and grass and bushes, rich with elk and eagles, and Paul Rokich has received almost every environmental award Utah has.

He says, “I thought that if I got this started, when I was dead and gone people would come and see it. I never thought I’d live to see it myself!” It took him until his hair turned white, but he managed to keep that impossible vow he made to himself as a child. Read More about Paul & the Bingham Canyon Copper Mine

What was it you wanted to do that you thought was impossible? Paul’s story sure gives a perspective on things, doesn’t it? The way you get something accomplished in this world is to just keep planting. Just keep working. Just keep plugging away at it one day at a time for a long time, no matter who criticizes you, no matter how long it takes, no matter how many times you fall. Get back up again. And just keep planting.

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